Increasingly I am working with women who want to see me for reasons unconnected with their own children.
When we are unhappy, feel unloved and feel anxious, this has an impact on how we look after ourselves, health and fitness wise. We may be overweight, eating badly, drinking more than we know we should. You need to love yourself just as you are and ironically, that's when you look and feel your best. Low self-esteem affects everything in our life; home, love-life, work, sport. It affects our mood, our sleep and the way we eat, our self-talk. At the moment you may feel blocked but I can help you to move forward in your life. There may have been a key life event that triggered this but the low self-belief probably started way back in your childhood and we can find where this negative belief was imprinted......and change it to one that will leave you feeling empowered and happy.
I am helping single women who may be wondering why they can't meet that special someone . Perhaps they've noticed that they meet someone and then things go wrong. Perhaps they sabotage the relationship and want to change the pattern. When we do the work together, you will feel complete, accept yourself and know your patterns. Loving ourselves is the first step to being loved by someone else. I can help you with this journey of discovery and self- love. I have been through it myself and I can tell you, it's a much much calmer and happier place to be. You might be single through divorce, relationship break down or bereavement or simply not yet found the right person for you. Whatever place you are in, I can help you.
I can help anyone hoping to start a family, maybe struggling, feeling discouraged, feeling that it just isn't going to happen. NLP works brilliantly with blocked and limiting beliefs and EFT clears the feelings around them.
I also feel drawn to working with women in difficult, challenging relationships. I have been through this personally and read a lot, done masses of work on myself and as a couple and I feel that I can help in this area. You may be in a codependent relationship, or you feel unloved, unappreciated, disrespected. Do you feel your partner constantly puts you down, finds fault? Perhaps the physical side of the relationship has disappeared. Maybe the love has gone.
Having been through the menopause and empty nest - I have four grown up children, I struggled with this as being a mother was central to my identity. "Who am I if I'm not needed as a mum?" I felt. I have been exploring this over the years and like most therapists, constantly work on myself.
When we are unhappy, feel unloved and feel anxious, this has an impact on how we look after ourselves health and fitness wise. You know that diets don't work. If you want to look amazing, you need to feel amazing. You need to love yourself just as you are and ironically, that's when your shape changes! Low self-esteem affects everything; it affects our mood, our sleep and the way we eat, our self-talk. At the moment you may feel blocked but I can help you to move forward in your life.
I find EFT Tapping so good for clearing those subconscious blocks that talking therapies don't reach. We can go round and round in circles, trying to figure out why we can't seem to move on. By tapping on specific points on our body and tuning in to where that resistance is and where it has come from (often way back in our childhood) we can clear it and feel free and in flow.
The problems we encounter in our life, occur because we hold beliefs about ourselves, about others and about 'life' in general, that are preventing us from achieving what we want. Those beliefs were formed before we were six years old and you're right, we can't even remember what happened. This is because it was what we call a UDIN. It was:
unexpected
dramatic
isolating
and we had no strategy to cope with it
As a result we went into 'freeze' locking the memory in our subconscious because we could neither fight or flight in that moment. We made a belief or decision at that time about ourselves. It may be that 'I am unlovable' or 'I am stupid' or 'I'm not important' or something similar. We then spend our lives attracting evidence of this belief because it is trapped and we can't access it consciously.
We may also create attachment strategies such as being 'avoidant attached' - keeping ourselves safe emotionally, what we might call 'emotionally unavailable' because we learnt in our early years that we couldn't trust ourselves to love. We might adopt an 'anxious attachment' style where we were needy and constantly needing reassurance that we were loved. This of course pushes the avoidant attached partner away yet we find lots of partnerships with this push me pull you relationship which makes both partners unhappy. The ideal is a secure attachment and I can help you achieve this.
If we didn't get unconditional love as a child, we seek the love of others and can't self-soothe. We put ourselves down, constantly apologise and never achieve all that is possible because we have low self-esteem. I can help with this too. I have had lots of clients who marry, thinking they will get the love they didn't have as a child but soon find that in the hurly burly of parenthood and married life, that their needs are not being met and they even lose sight of what their own needs are.
I have a huge range of skills, expertise, activities and insight to help you with whatever you are struggling with so get in touch for a free consultation to meet me and decide if you'd like to work with me. If you do, then we have an initial 90 minute consultation, at the end of which we form a plan of what we want to focus on, where we want to get to and set up the appointments. You can choose a package of 4 for £300 or 6 for £400.
When we are unhappy, feel unloved and feel anxious, this has an impact on how we look after ourselves, health and fitness wise. We may be overweight, eating badly, drinking more than we know we should. You need to love yourself just as you are and ironically, that's when you look and feel your best. Low self-esteem affects everything in our life; home, love-life, work, sport. It affects our mood, our sleep and the way we eat, our self-talk. At the moment you may feel blocked but I can help you to move forward in your life. There may have been a key life event that triggered this but the low self-belief probably started way back in your childhood and we can find where this negative belief was imprinted......and change it to one that will leave you feeling empowered and happy.
I am helping single women who may be wondering why they can't meet that special someone . Perhaps they've noticed that they meet someone and then things go wrong. Perhaps they sabotage the relationship and want to change the pattern. When we do the work together, you will feel complete, accept yourself and know your patterns. Loving ourselves is the first step to being loved by someone else. I can help you with this journey of discovery and self- love. I have been through it myself and I can tell you, it's a much much calmer and happier place to be. You might be single through divorce, relationship break down or bereavement or simply not yet found the right person for you. Whatever place you are in, I can help you.
I can help anyone hoping to start a family, maybe struggling, feeling discouraged, feeling that it just isn't going to happen. NLP works brilliantly with blocked and limiting beliefs and EFT clears the feelings around them.
I also feel drawn to working with women in difficult, challenging relationships. I have been through this personally and read a lot, done masses of work on myself and as a couple and I feel that I can help in this area. You may be in a codependent relationship, or you feel unloved, unappreciated, disrespected. Do you feel your partner constantly puts you down, finds fault? Perhaps the physical side of the relationship has disappeared. Maybe the love has gone.
Having been through the menopause and empty nest - I have four grown up children, I struggled with this as being a mother was central to my identity. "Who am I if I'm not needed as a mum?" I felt. I have been exploring this over the years and like most therapists, constantly work on myself.
When we are unhappy, feel unloved and feel anxious, this has an impact on how we look after ourselves health and fitness wise. You know that diets don't work. If you want to look amazing, you need to feel amazing. You need to love yourself just as you are and ironically, that's when your shape changes! Low self-esteem affects everything; it affects our mood, our sleep and the way we eat, our self-talk. At the moment you may feel blocked but I can help you to move forward in your life.
I find EFT Tapping so good for clearing those subconscious blocks that talking therapies don't reach. We can go round and round in circles, trying to figure out why we can't seem to move on. By tapping on specific points on our body and tuning in to where that resistance is and where it has come from (often way back in our childhood) we can clear it and feel free and in flow.
The problems we encounter in our life, occur because we hold beliefs about ourselves, about others and about 'life' in general, that are preventing us from achieving what we want. Those beliefs were formed before we were six years old and you're right, we can't even remember what happened. This is because it was what we call a UDIN. It was:
unexpected
dramatic
isolating
and we had no strategy to cope with it
As a result we went into 'freeze' locking the memory in our subconscious because we could neither fight or flight in that moment. We made a belief or decision at that time about ourselves. It may be that 'I am unlovable' or 'I am stupid' or 'I'm not important' or something similar. We then spend our lives attracting evidence of this belief because it is trapped and we can't access it consciously.
We may also create attachment strategies such as being 'avoidant attached' - keeping ourselves safe emotionally, what we might call 'emotionally unavailable' because we learnt in our early years that we couldn't trust ourselves to love. We might adopt an 'anxious attachment' style where we were needy and constantly needing reassurance that we were loved. This of course pushes the avoidant attached partner away yet we find lots of partnerships with this push me pull you relationship which makes both partners unhappy. The ideal is a secure attachment and I can help you achieve this.
If we didn't get unconditional love as a child, we seek the love of others and can't self-soothe. We put ourselves down, constantly apologise and never achieve all that is possible because we have low self-esteem. I can help with this too. I have had lots of clients who marry, thinking they will get the love they didn't have as a child but soon find that in the hurly burly of parenthood and married life, that their needs are not being met and they even lose sight of what their own needs are.
I have a huge range of skills, expertise, activities and insight to help you with whatever you are struggling with so get in touch for a free consultation to meet me and decide if you'd like to work with me. If you do, then we have an initial 90 minute consultation, at the end of which we form a plan of what we want to focus on, where we want to get to and set up the appointments. You can choose a package of 4 for £300 or 6 for £400.
