Is your child struggling to cope with the uncertainty of these times?
Are they experiencing angry outbursts ?
Getting tearful ?
Finding it difficult to sleep?
Lost their appetite?
Falling out with friends?
Lost their energy ?
Can't be bothered?
Are you struggling to cope?
These are some of the reasons parents are calling me for help.
Sometimes I can suggest something on the phone, a different way of communicating with them perhaps or another way of looking at their behaviour, another approach to try or just a friendly word of encouragement in these times when we feel isolated from our usual support of friends and family.
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I am Judy Bartkowiak and I've been mad about kids for years! I must be - I have four of my own and a granddaughter.
My first job was as a Children's Qualitative Market Researcher, running focus groups with children on TV shows like Postman Pat, Fireman Sam, Noddy and loads of great fun toys and books. You pretty quickly learn how to connect with children when you have a client breathing down your neck I can tell you!
When my own kids were young, I combined this work with running a Montessori Nursery School in my home. I didn't teach in the school as I'm not Montessori trained but I bobbed in and out to join in whenever I could.
Once my children were all safely in primary school, I trained in NLP and no end of other great techniques including EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), PTT (Picture Tapping Technique) and Matrix Re-imprinting (including birth and past life). I am now an NLP Trainer and EFT Trainer.
Some of my clients prefer the more practical aspects of CBT and I have a great number of CBT exercises and worksheets that I use with children to challenge the connection between their thoughts and feelings. What if we could choose our thoughts? Well, exactly! Some children are more 'in their heads' and like to keep thought diaries and challenge the thoughts they experience from situations they find stressful or cause them anxiety or depression.
I work from home (just like pretty much everyone else these days!) on the Bucks/Berks borders. I also work a great deal online.
I am the author of Teach Yourself books; ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’, ‘NLP Workbook’, ‘Self-Esteem Workbook’ and ‘Secrets of the NLP Masters’. See the Books Page of the website. I also wrote the series of workbooks ‘Engaging NLP’ which offer practical ways to integrate NLP techniques and skills.
I work on these type of issues:
- Anxiety
- Fears and Phobias
- Trauma including birth trauma
- Identity
- Self esteem
- Relationships
- Limiting beliefs
- Communication and social skills
- Eating disorders
- Addictions
- Depression
Children learn through play and art, using their imagination to create new possibilities and choices. It can be fun getting to know yourself when you're a child!
So how can NLP and EFT be applied in parenting?
In parenting we fall into patterns of behaviour sometimes because that’s what we’ve always done, or it’s what our parents did, what we believe is the ‘right thing’ to do or say and despite evidence that it’s not working, we continue to do these things in the hope that one day we will get the results we want.
‘If we always do what we’ve always done then we will always get what we’ve always got’. I ask parents what they want to change. What is their desired outcome? What do they want rather than what they don’t want. So often parents think in terms of what they don’t want.
I encourage them to use ‘towards’ thinking and ask them to notice their children’s good behaviour rather than their ‘bad ‘ behaviour. What you focus on is what you get more of and that is so true in parenting.
In parenting we fall into patterns of behaviour sometimes because that’s what we’ve always done, or it’s what our parents did, what we believe is the ‘right thing’ to do or say and despite evidence that it’s not working, we continue to do these things in the hope that one day we will get the results we want.
‘If we always do what we’ve always done then we will always get what we’ve always got’. I ask parents what they want to change. What is their desired outcome? What do they want rather than what they don’t want. So often parents think in terms of what they don’t want.
I encourage them to use ‘towards’ thinking and ask them to notice their children’s good behaviour rather than their ‘bad ‘ behaviour. What you focus on is what you get more of and that is so true in parenting.
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