Is your child struggling right now?
Are they experiencing angry outbursts ?
Getting tearful ?
Finding it difficult to sleep?
Lost their appetite?
Falling out with friends?
Lost their energy ?
Can't be bothered?
Are you struggling to cope?
I have a wealth of experience with children and teens, working with them on a wide range of issues using playful techniques designed to draw them out without asking intrusive or direct questions but instead using art and sand play, LEGO and collages. You may think this seems a bit babyish for the teens I treat but in fact there's a good reason for this.
Such play is non-threatening, it's easy for them to do, easier than talking about their problem and yet through this seemingly easy play, they reveal patterns of thought and show in a safe and unstressful way, what's upsetting them. I can then feed this back to them in a way that shows them how we can make changes that will bring about a different result, if not for the external situation, which they may not be able to change, but how they perceive it internally.
Another reason to use child-like techniques is to help them access their subconscious mind, where the feelings live. When people ask them 'why are you anxious?" or "why do you feel sad?" they feel they need to give a reason and often they just don't know, there isn't a 'why'.
My approach is focused on understanding the feelings, identifying the limiting belief behind it such as 'I'm not good enough' or 'people don't like me' or 'I don't trust anyone'.
From there, we go off on a hunt down a Time Line to discover where this came from and what belief was made at that time. I then use EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting to work out with them what that younger self needed and we do this work together. They then take this new more resourceful belief back up their Time Line to where they need it now.
This is very gentle , intuitive work using their own desire to feel happier and their imagination to see what's possible.
I use techniques like NLP, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Art Therapy, Mindfulness,Reiki and alongside these I introduce essential oils and crystals. This is not counselling with lots of talking but I'm essentially holding the space for them to work with me to find the new resourceful belief and some strategies and techniques to use to support themselves.
I work from home in Taplow on the Bucks/Berks borders,
between Maidenhead and Slough near Junction 2 of the M40 and Junction 7 of the M4.
I also have a base in Hove, Sussex where my mum lives so I'm there fairly regularly.
I also work a great deal online.
Have you checked out my Blog?
How can I help?
Contact me directly and confidentially for one-to-one, personalised advice.
Talk to me on the phone - +44 (0) 1628 660618 / +44 (0) 7917 451245
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My latest two books are 'Understanding children and teens- a practical guide for parents, teachers and coaches' and
'Empower your Kids - a coaching guide for parents'.
I am the author of Teach Yourself books; ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’, ‘NLP Workbook’, ‘Self-Esteem Workbook’ and ‘Secrets of the NLP Masters’. See the Books Page of the website. I also wrote the series of workbooks ‘Engaging NLP’ which offer practical ways to integrate NLP techniques and skills.
I work on these type of issues:
- Anxiety
- Fears and Phobias
- Trauma including birth trauma
- Identity
- Self esteem
- Relationships
- Limiting beliefs
- Communication and social skills
- Eating disorders
- Addictions
- Depression
Children learn through play and art, using their imagination to create new possibilities and choices. It can be fun getting to know yourself when you're a child!
So how can NLP and EFT be applied in parenting?
In parenting we fall into patterns of behaviour sometimes because that’s what we’ve always done, or it’s what our parents did, what we believe is the ‘right thing’ to do or say and despite evidence that it’s not working, we continue to do these things in the hope that one day we will get the results we want.
‘If we always do what we’ve always done then we will always get what we’ve always got’. I ask parents what they want to change. What is their desired outcome? What do they want rather than what they don’t want. So often parents think in terms of what they don’t want.
I encourage them to use ‘towards’ thinking and ask them to notice their children’s good behaviour rather than their ‘bad ‘ behaviour. What you focus on is what you get more of and that is so true in parenting.
In parenting we fall into patterns of behaviour sometimes because that’s what we’ve always done, or it’s what our parents did, what we believe is the ‘right thing’ to do or say and despite evidence that it’s not working, we continue to do these things in the hope that one day we will get the results we want.
‘If we always do what we’ve always done then we will always get what we’ve always got’. I ask parents what they want to change. What is their desired outcome? What do they want rather than what they don’t want. So often parents think in terms of what they don’t want.
I encourage them to use ‘towards’ thinking and ask them to notice their children’s good behaviour rather than their ‘bad ‘ behaviour. What you focus on is what you get more of and that is so true in parenting.
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