Thank you for connecting with me here on my website. By far the fastest way to get help is to call me
Although my own four kids are no longer children or teens , my memory is pretty good and I do remember how challenging those times were and this gives me the insight along with my training and experience of working with clients, to help you and to help them.
Many mums and dads want me to work with their children and focus on them alone. That may be a financial consideration but it may also be from fear that our own limiting beliefs and behaviour may be affecting our troubled child. It may simply feel too overwhelming to deal with our own 'stuff'. We want to prioritise our child and put ourselves last. It's what mums and dads do, isn't it?
But think about what happens when you experience this behaviour or outburst from your child. What's your first thought? How do you feel? How may that be impacting on what happens next?
How we respond, what we say and do is based on our own map of the world which comes from our childhood and may even come from your mother's childhood (ancestral work) so we need to understand this and work on maybe creating more positive beliefs that will help you and of course your child.
When we change, they change. We are connected.
Have a look at the Home Page where you'll find an explanation of how I use Matrix Reimprinting to do this work to clear your own limiting beliefs.
Therapists work a lot on their own childhood and their limiting beliefs because we know how they can crop up quite unexpectedly sometimes and trigger an unexpected reaction, based perhaps on something that's happened in our own childhood. I have personally benefited enormously from working with other therapists and learning from books, podcasts and workshops.
Recent training I have done has been with Kim Marshall on Eating Disorders and with Janice Thompson on Grief and Loss.
I am a Reiki Master Trainer and use Reiki with my child and teen clients for stress.
I also use Essential Oils and Crystals which can also support the work I do with clients.
What happens when you contact me?
Call me, text or email to discuss the problem and I'll tell you how I can help. This discussion can last 30 minutes and won't cost you anything. You may even learn enough to not need to make an appointment. Sometimes another angle on the issue makes all the difference.
You can also arrange a WhatsApp video chat so your child or teen can meet me to check that they are happy to work with me.
If you decide to go ahead and book a first appointment?
First appointment
This is 90 minutes split between you and your child or teen, then them on their own to do an activity , exercise or to chat, then together again. It gives you the opportunity
- to learn more about how I work
- them the opportunity to decide if they want to commit to working together
- and me the chance to explain any of the methods I will use that will help you decide whether I am the right therapist for your child
Next steps?
I will email a suggested programme of sessions based on this first session but with flexibility to cover issues as they emerge as trust and rapport builds between us.
If you or your child decides they don't wish to continue or feel that what you have learnt from the first session is enough to make a few changes for now, then that's absolutely fine of course.
The sessions will include a number of different activities as well as talking because I find children talk more openly when they are doing something and the activity itself also reveals patterns which can help me guide them through making new choices and change patterns that aren't working for them. I specifically use art and lego, story cubes and picture cards.
Some children and teens find it easier to talk when they are outside walking so this is also an option.
Although my own four kids are no longer children or teens , my memory is pretty good and I do remember how challenging those times were and this gives me the insight along with my training and experience of working with clients, to help you and to help them.
Many mums and dads want me to work with their children and focus on them alone. That may be a financial consideration but it may also be from fear that our own limiting beliefs and behaviour may be affecting our troubled child. It may simply feel too overwhelming to deal with our own 'stuff'. We want to prioritise our child and put ourselves last. It's what mums and dads do, isn't it?
But think about what happens when you experience this behaviour or outburst from your child. What's your first thought? How do you feel? How may that be impacting on what happens next?
How we respond, what we say and do is based on our own map of the world which comes from our childhood and may even come from your mother's childhood (ancestral work) so we need to understand this and work on maybe creating more positive beliefs that will help you and of course your child.
When we change, they change. We are connected.
Have a look at the Home Page where you'll find an explanation of how I use Matrix Reimprinting to do this work to clear your own limiting beliefs.
Therapists work a lot on their own childhood and their limiting beliefs because we know how they can crop up quite unexpectedly sometimes and trigger an unexpected reaction, based perhaps on something that's happened in our own childhood. I have personally benefited enormously from working with other therapists and learning from books, podcasts and workshops.
Recent training I have done has been with Kim Marshall on Eating Disorders and with Janice Thompson on Grief and Loss.
I am a Reiki Master Trainer and use Reiki with my child and teen clients for stress.
I also use Essential Oils and Crystals which can also support the work I do with clients.
What happens when you contact me?
Call me, text or email to discuss the problem and I'll tell you how I can help. This discussion can last 30 minutes and won't cost you anything. You may even learn enough to not need to make an appointment. Sometimes another angle on the issue makes all the difference.
You can also arrange a WhatsApp video chat so your child or teen can meet me to check that they are happy to work with me.
If you decide to go ahead and book a first appointment?
First appointment
This is 90 minutes split between you and your child or teen, then them on their own to do an activity , exercise or to chat, then together again. It gives you the opportunity
- to learn more about how I work
- them the opportunity to decide if they want to commit to working together
- and me the chance to explain any of the methods I will use that will help you decide whether I am the right therapist for your child
Next steps?
I will email a suggested programme of sessions based on this first session but with flexibility to cover issues as they emerge as trust and rapport builds between us.
If you or your child decides they don't wish to continue or feel that what you have learnt from the first session is enough to make a few changes for now, then that's absolutely fine of course.
The sessions will include a number of different activities as well as talking because I find children talk more openly when they are doing something and the activity itself also reveals patterns which can help me guide them through making new choices and change patterns that aren't working for them. I specifically use art and lego, story cubes and picture cards.
Some children and teens find it easier to talk when they are outside walking so this is also an option.
What sort of issues can I help with?
Most clients book four or six one hour sessions to work on specific agreed areas such as
- confidence
- anxiety
- friendships,
- learning struggles
- sibling rivalry
- stress
- sleeping
- eating issues
When your child or teen comes to me I create an ‘open frame’ where they can talk, play music, do some art and craft, play with Lego or walk in the garden. I don’t believe direct questions work well, so I create an atmosphere of trust and curiosity where they can think about what they want and how they can achieve it.
I love to use crystals and essential oils because both can be powerful ways for clients to express their feelings through projecting them onto a crystal or a smell. I've written a blog post about this, it might give you some ideas of how to use what you already have at home to get your child or teen talking about their feelings.
Confidence and resilience - need help?
I have a couple of more lightweight, less 'therapy' type programmes for children who don't have a specific problem or those who need a more wide ranging approach.
Junior NLP Practitioner Course
This is a leJd programme, it is not therapy. Your child or young person will be taught many NLP and EFT techniques in an engaging and interactive way with exercises and questions, where they can use examples from their own life. They will learn:
Session 1
How do you think and process your world
Visual/Auditory/Kinaesthetic
Deletions/Distortions/Generalisations
Metaprogrammes - choices/process, towards/away from, global/specific, match/mismatch etc
How will knowing how you process, learn and communicate make life easier at home, school and in your sport
Session 2
How would you like your world to be different
Applying SMART goal thinking
What skills do you have to achieve this
Overcoming limiting beliefs
How to be confident
Session 3
How to get rid of the bad feelings
Anchoring
Grounding
Mindfulness
EFT Tapping
Affirmations
Thought Records
Session 4
How to step away from the 'I can't
The Drama Triangle
How to be a problem solver
How will they integrate the new knowledge
What will they do differently
The cost is £250 for the four one hour sessions.
Content is designed for school years 5- 8 (children 10 - 14yrs) for preparation to join Secondary School
Notes for the session are sent in advance so they can make notes directly on their workbook and so parents can see what we will be covering. Call me to discuss if this is the best programme for your child or teen.
Most clients book four or six one hour sessions to work on specific agreed areas such as
- confidence
- anxiety
- friendships,
- learning struggles
- sibling rivalry
- stress
- sleeping
- eating issues
When your child or teen comes to me I create an ‘open frame’ where they can talk, play music, do some art and craft, play with Lego or walk in the garden. I don’t believe direct questions work well, so I create an atmosphere of trust and curiosity where they can think about what they want and how they can achieve it.
I love to use crystals and essential oils because both can be powerful ways for clients to express their feelings through projecting them onto a crystal or a smell. I've written a blog post about this, it might give you some ideas of how to use what you already have at home to get your child or teen talking about their feelings.
Confidence and resilience - need help?
I have a couple of more lightweight, less 'therapy' type programmes for children who don't have a specific problem or those who need a more wide ranging approach.
Junior NLP Practitioner Course
This is a leJd programme, it is not therapy. Your child or young person will be taught many NLP and EFT techniques in an engaging and interactive way with exercises and questions, where they can use examples from their own life. They will learn:
Session 1
How do you think and process your world
Visual/Auditory/Kinaesthetic
Deletions/Distortions/Generalisations
Metaprogrammes - choices/process, towards/away from, global/specific, match/mismatch etc
How will knowing how you process, learn and communicate make life easier at home, school and in your sport
Session 2
How would you like your world to be different
Applying SMART goal thinking
What skills do you have to achieve this
Overcoming limiting beliefs
How to be confident
Session 3
How to get rid of the bad feelings
Anchoring
Grounding
Mindfulness
EFT Tapping
Affirmations
Thought Records
Session 4
How to step away from the 'I can't
The Drama Triangle
How to be a problem solver
How will they integrate the new knowledge
What will they do differently
The cost is £250 for the four one hour sessions.
Content is designed for school years 5- 8 (children 10 - 14yrs) for preparation to join Secondary School
Notes for the session are sent in advance so they can make notes directly on their workbook and so parents can see what we will be covering. Call me to discuss if this is the best programme for your child or teen.
Anxiety Busting Programme
This is a led programme, it is not therapy. Your child or young person will be taught many NLP principles in an engaging and interactive way with exercises and questions where they can use examples from their own life, from school, social and sports. They will learn:
Session 1
What is anxiety, how does it work, fight/flight/freeze
Positive intention of anxiety
NLP Communication Model – how we process in our own unique way
Session 2
Setting compelling outcomes – social/sports/school – chunking down for SMART and chunking up for identity, values and purpose
Skills and beliefs to support outcome
Circle of Excellence
Session 3
Karpman Drama Triangle – victim, rescuer, persecutor (the anxiety)
Logical levels of change – purpose, identity, values and beliefs, skills, behaviour and environment – aligning to achieve compelling outcome
Session 4
EFT tapping
The cost is £250 for the four one hour sessions.
Notes for the session are sent in advance so they can make notes directly on their workbook and so parents can see what we will be covering.
This is a led programme, it is not therapy. Your child or young person will be taught many NLP principles in an engaging and interactive way with exercises and questions where they can use examples from their own life, from school, social and sports. They will learn:
Session 1
What is anxiety, how does it work, fight/flight/freeze
Positive intention of anxiety
NLP Communication Model – how we process in our own unique way
Session 2
Setting compelling outcomes – social/sports/school – chunking down for SMART and chunking up for identity, values and purpose
Skills and beliefs to support outcome
Circle of Excellence
Session 3
Karpman Drama Triangle – victim, rescuer, persecutor (the anxiety)
Logical levels of change – purpose, identity, values and beliefs, skills, behaviour and environment – aligning to achieve compelling outcome
Session 4
EFT tapping
The cost is £250 for the four one hour sessions.
Notes for the session are sent in advance so they can make notes directly on their workbook and so parents can see what we will be covering.
Other ways to help your child or teen
Head over to my Bookshop for workbooks (with extracts so you can check for age suitability and content.
Download a free worksheet for children.
Buy Understanding Children and Teens - my latest book written to help you get to the bottom of whatever your child is struggling with using activities, exercises and all sorts of ingenious ways of engaging with them.
Or Empower your Kids! A coaching guide for parents - this takes you through all the issues you're likely to encounter and shows you a number of techniques to help.
Or just call me!
Head over to my Bookshop for workbooks (with extracts so you can check for age suitability and content.
Download a free worksheet for children.
Buy Understanding Children and Teens - my latest book written to help you get to the bottom of whatever your child is struggling with using activities, exercises and all sorts of ingenious ways of engaging with them.
Or Empower your Kids! A coaching guide for parents - this takes you through all the issues you're likely to encounter and shows you a number of techniques to help.
Or just call me!
1.5hrs- First Consultation
£
125.00
1hr – Consultation
£
85.00
4 x 1 hr Therapy Sessions
£
300.00
Junior NLP & EFT Programme
£
250.00
Anxiety Busting Programme
£
250.00
2hrs – Family
£
200.00
4hrs - Family (2hrs family session plus 2 x 1hr child/teen sessions)
£
300.00
