Why learn to coach children using NLP?

 
What is NLP?

‘Neuro’ is how we think, based on our values and beliefs about the world we live in and how it works. It’s how we process what we see hear and feel. It’s unique to us.

‘Linguistic’ is what we say based on those thoughts and our body language, it’s how we express ourselves, how we communicate.

‘Programming’ is the result we get from what and how we communicate, the patterns of behaviour and the result of how we behave.

By getting in touch with what we do unconsciously, the things that have become habits, and make them conscious, we can decide how we might change them in order to get the result we want now.
It is about change and the desire to change and make new patterns by examining how we think and what we say and experimenting with other options that will make a difference.

How will it benefit parents?

In parenting we fall into patterns of behaviour sometimes because that’s what we’ve always done, or it’s what our parents did, what we believe is the ‘right thing’ to do or say and despite evidence that it’s not working we continue to do these things in the hope that one day we will get the results we want.
‘If we always do what we’ve always done then we will always get what we’ve always got’. I ask parents what they want to change. What is their desired outcome? What do they want rather than what they don’t want. So often parents think in terms of what they don’t want. Tantrums, answering back, disobedience, cheek, untidiness these are often mentioned. Parents use the ‘don’t word all the time. They focus their attention on what’s not going well.

I encourage them to use ‘towards’ thinking and ask them to notice their children’s good behaviour rather than their ‘bad ‘ behaviour. What you focus on is what you get more of and that is so true in parenting.

How will it benefit kids?

There are a great many reasons why NLP works so well with kids and young people.

• Children are like sponges, they soak up new ideas and embrace change and choices. They have not become numbed by bitter experience or resentful. They are open and ready to learn.
• The NLP techniques and exercises are simple and easy to do and to replicate anywhere so kids can use them at school, home, anywhere
• NLP is positive, it is about focusing on what we do want not what we don’t want, focusing on when things are going well, modeling excellence, what we do well and the structure of excellence.
• We even teach that there’s no failure only feedback, how empowering is that for a child?!
• We do not prescribe, we give children choices and the more choices they have, the more flexibility and the more control they have in every situation.
• Everything is possible with NLP the only thing stopping a child is the child itself but sadly parents often get in the way by giving them limiting beliefs which we then have to show them how to remove.

Much of our work will be with parents because of this and the fact that they will model behaviour that is not resourceful to the child. Whenever possible I will encourage a parent to have a session with me before seeing their child as this prepares them, informs them and enables the child to have a more meaningful conversation with them after their session.

You will learn lots of tools and techniques that will help children

1. Overcome limiting beliefs
2. Boost their confidence and self-esteem
3. Manage their anger
4. Manage their anxiety
5. Learn more effectively by boosting their concentration and focus
6. Improve their communication skills
7. Manage their physical performance
8. Manage the feedback they get and turn it into learning

Why should you train with me?

Qualifications
NLP Practitioner – Sue Knight
NLP Master Practitioner – Sue Knight
NLP Kids Practitioner – Gemma Bailey
NLP Trainers Training – Sue Knight
NLP Sports Practitioner – Jeremy Lazarus

Author of NLP books

Teach Yourself: Be a happier parent with NLP – Hodder 2011
Engaging NLP series of Workbooks – MX Publishing 2010 /2011/2012
Parents, New Mums, Teachers, Children, Tweens, Teens, Back to Work, Work
Teach Yourself: NLP Workbook - Hodder 2012
Teach Yourself: Self-Esteem Workbook - Hodder 2012
Secrets of the NLP Masters – Hodder 2014

I have been training NLP Practitioners in working with children and young people for 6 years. I am certified as a trainer through ANLP and my courses are accredited to Sue Knight who trained me.
My NLP training covers everything you would learn on a classic NLP training course but with a few differences which I feel are advantages

1. It is on Skype so you can work from your own home, record the session and make notes.
2. This keeps the cost down. Most NLP courses are over £1,000
3. It is an individual session which means that you can ask questions as we go along, contribute your own experiences, discuss application of NLP and anything you don’t understand can be immediately explained.
4. The sessions are weekly, giving you time in between modules to absorb and integrate what you have learned and apply it through a short homework exercise which usually involves working with a child or young person.
5. If you intend to work with children and young people then I can offer you the benefit of many years’ specialist experience.
6. The course focuses on working with children whereas most NLP courses are focused on the workplace and on working with adults.
7. You get individual feedback from me on your homework and the opportunity to improve on it. I then invite you to share it in our private Facebook group where you can read other students’ homework and have feedback on your own.
8. Once you’ve qualified you can continue to use the student Facebook group for advice and ideas and I can help or mentor you in any way you need.
9. If for any reason you need to rearrange your session this can be done relatively easily.
10. The final module Module 12 covers marketing your business which is not usually covered on NLP courses.

Experience with children

I am a mother - I have four children aged 16-28yrs
I ran a Montessori School for 7 years while my children were young
My background is children’s market research for TV companies, publishers and toy companies.
So children have been a big part of my life for many years even before I set up NLP Kids, coaching children and young people and training those who want to work with them.

What will you learn?

Module 1 – Introduction to the course and discussion of your personal and professional goals. What is NLP and how it works with kids and parents.
Module 2 – Establishing your clients’ processing (internal referencing – visual, auditory, kinaesthetic)and explaining it to them.  Meta-Programmes and how to use them at school, home and socially. Accessing skills and learning how to transfer them. Learn Anchoring.
Module 3 – Compelling outcomes, more on transferring skills. Giving and receiving feedback. Learn Circle of Excellence
Module 4 – Beliefs of excellence and modelling excellence. Learn Modelling.
Module 5 – Finding out without asking questions. Metaphors, sub modalities and clean language. Learn Play Therapy
Module 6 – Overcoming Limiting beliefs. Learn Perceptual Positioning
Module 7 – Overcoming anxiety and practice State Management. Learn Swish
Module 8 – Managing Behavioural Issues including anger. Learn Mindfulness.
Module 9 – Improve learning skills, focus and concentration. Learn Grounding.
Module 10 – Mind and Body connections for improved health and sports performance. Learn Time Line
Module 11 – Understanding and coaching parents. Learn The Drama Triangle
Module 12 – Marketing, Social Media / Blogging etc.

Skype sessions have this structure.

• Feedback on previous week’s homework
• Content of module
• Discussion
• Homework set

 
What is your investment?

The course of 12 one hour lessons via Skype, costs £750 paid in advance.
On receipt, you will get a copy of ‘NLP Workbook’ and ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ these will be your reference books for the course.

I will email the script after each session and you can record the session yourself using Skype or your phone or other device. There will be about an hour of homework. I’m looking for engagement with the content, thoughtfulness as to how you will apply it and something added by you at a personal level based on your own knowledge and work with children. You can SKYPE me at any time to discuss the course content or any questions you have with your assignment.  
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After the 11th Module you will present a final assignment to me via Skype and other students may join us. These will be individual 30 minute presentations on one element of NLP with Kids. You can choose whatever age group you want to focus on for the exercise and/or what issue. You need to be rock solid on the techniques and skills and show that you can pass these on to us as a model. It won’t be enough just to feed back to me what I’ve taught you. You will need to incorporate your own experience, research and ideas and other students’ work.