NLP is fun. We so often forget in our busy lives that your child’s map of the world is different from ours. The map is not the territory; your map is huge and encompasses worlds they are totally unaware of such as the workplace, your financial situation, relationships with friends and extended family, the political and economic environment you live in and the world you travel in. For them, the territory is smaller, more intense and they are more vulnerable because they are dependent on you for all that they need, love, support, encouragement, respect, security, food, education and practical necessities like toys and TV!
Using NLP thinking we are invited to enter their territory and enjoy it by ‘walking in their shoes’ listening and using their language and mannerisms to understand it. By doing this, we can communicate in a way that resonates with them from a close distance emotionally where we have good rapport. As you do this, you will capture much of their excitement and energy.
Children are great at playing make believe so getting them to adopt new ways of saying and doing things comes as second nature. They can visualise really well and understand metaphors – one thing representing something else.
NLP is ecological in the sense that it respects the fact that we all have choices. Children have the choice whether to be angry or jealous or sad about something because we can help them use an NLP tool to reframe a situation so that it makes sense to them in their map. It gives children a measure of control over their lives so they can learn to communicate in a way that will bring them their desired outcome. This gives children the all important confidence they need in every area of their life. It gives them strategies for coping with people they find difficult whether they are peers or teachers; enhancing friendships and increasing motivation in work and sport. Children are fast learners and their patterns of behaviour are easier to change than adults whose habits are well entrenched.
If you learn the NLP tools and understand the concepts you can explain them to your children. More importantly, they will give you the confidence and self esteem to parent your children in a positive way avoiding conflict and stress.
Be a Happier Parent with NLP
The Neuro-Linguistic Programming Workbook
This new Teach Yourself Workbook doesn't just tell you how to use NLP. It accompanies you every step of the way, with diagnostic tools, goal-setting charts, practical exercises, and many more features ideal for people who want a more active style of learning. The book starts by helping you identify your own preferred styles of learning and communication. It then helps you set specific goals to improve on; as you progress through the book, you will be able to keep checking your progress against these goals. Specially created exercises, using the tools and techniques of NLP, will help you boost your skills and communication so that you can reach your potential in any situation.
Judy Bartkowiak is a highly regarded NLP author, trainer and Kids & Teens Coach. She practises NLP, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Matrix Birth Reimprinting and Picture Tapping Technique. Contact Judy using the form below.