1. This is a great time to review your values. What is important to you and what do you just do because you feel you 'should' or 'must' as opposed to what you want to do. Keep hold of those things you do because they put a spring in your step and make you happy.
2. Do you sometimes find yourself saying 'yes, I'll do it' when you know deep down that it's going to be difficult and put pressure on you and the other things you've committed to? Bring out the 'no' that means 'no'. You have it there somewhere. It's the 'no' you use when you really mean it. You can gloss it up with a smile and even 'I'm sorry' but give good eye contact and be firm. Others will respect you for it.
3. Freeing up your time by remembering what's important and saying 'no' to the distractions means you have time for what is important to you. Identify the three roles that make you who you are. Do you use the calendar and tasks section of your Outlook? Make time for the tasks that relate to those three big roles. Schedule them in your calendar as time slots.
4. We grow and develop by experiencing new things, learning, reading, travelling, talking to different people and taking on board new ways of thinking. How could you incorporate this into your life? Start small maybe, perhaps try a new recipe, talk to someone you don't know at the school gate, read a book you wouldn't normally read, take a different route to work. Spring is about new growth.
5. Some of us have anger stored up inside, thoughts unspoken, feelings pushed under the carpet, a good way of cleansing yourself of these is to write them down. Write a diary or a letter that you don't send. Write down all those squashed thoughts and let them out of you. From there, you may be able to view them differently and have some closure or resolve to try a different way of being where you open up.
6. All new growth needs water and sunshine. Spend as much time as you can outside in the fresh air. Walk, cycle, run, get that body of yours moving and soaking up some Spring sunshine. Cleanse it with water and keep hydrated.
7. We live in a rushed world where people expect answers to emails immediately, they text back as soon as yours has arrived but do you allow yourself time to think? Allow some time to elapse before responding and give yourself some thinking time. It isn't always right to respond immediately. Think about what you have just read or heard and consider the choices you have. Your first choice may have been the right one, but it may not. Slow down the pace.
8. On the same tack, we tend to repeat ourselves every week, do the same things again and again. This week take a moment to review the week that has just gone, organise what you want to do next week, anticipate those things that might happen and realign accordingly. This is called a ROAR.
9. What makes you happy? Don't think about it too long. Just say what comes to your mind right now that makes you smile. Prioritise these things. I don't mean your three roles mentioned earlier, I mean those treats such as lunch with a friend, maybe watching your favourite TV show, a long soak in the bath. Do something indulgent for yourself every day.
10. I see a lot of clients who allow themselves to become the 'victim' by doing things they don't want to do. You have a choice. Stand up for yourself and express what you need. Step back from the hurly burly of life and focus on the things that are important to you. Being a victim is no fun at all and it is not a great role model for your kids.