In his book 'The five side effects of kindness' Dr David Hamilton explains that kindness makes us happier especially when we notice it by recording it. This makes us focus on being kind as an ongoing daily habit rather than a conscious choice. This in turn raises our self-esteem because we feel good about ourselves, we feel we have more value, more purpose. Dozens of small acts of kindness every day can make a huge difference. It also makes a difference to the people we are being kind to! Definitely this is a win:win.
Kindness relieves depression and social anxiety because it produces serotonin and oxytocin which turns down activity in the amygdala , which is the area of the brain that processes fear and anxiety. Good ways to increase your oxytocin are hugging people and being kind to animals.
It improves relationships because we are drawn to kind people so when we are kind, it spreads around us from person to person as the video above clearly shows. Kindness is contagious. Every act of kindness ripples out around us.
I am co-author of the Jane and Jake chapter books and each story takes a quality or characteristic and through Jane and Jake's adventures in Awesome, child- readers learn how they can build self-esteem. There are parent and teacher guides so these stories can be used at school and at home to extend the learning - as well as enjoy the story!
Extract from Jane and Jake's adventure.
Jane is furious. First, her art smock is deliberately splotched with pink paint. Then someone pours liquid on her beautiful painting that she is making for the school art fair. Jane suspects that Mia—an older, fifth-grade girl—and Mia’s friends are the culprits. Then, when Mia says horrible, stinging words about the gift Jane’s mom sent to Jane, Oracle whisks Jane and Jake to Awesome, where they discover the challenge that awaits them. To earn their Pink Pearls of Awesome Kindness they must find and return important items lost by their sea creature friends—including the special stinger of Jell-ee-o, a tiny sea jelly. But…how can Jane and Jake return a jellyfish’s stinger without getting hurt?
Judy Bartkowiak is a highly regarded NLP author, trainer and Kids & Teens Coach. She practises NLP, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Matrix Birth Reimprinting and Picture Tapping Technique to help children and young people manage anxiety, anger, depression and low self-esteem. Contact Judy using the form below.